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I've taken some so-called "family" off of my Facebook list.  One cares only about her Amway-type home business; another has no idea of who I am or what I'm about, and has no desire to learn, and a third was collateral damage.  To some, this may not seem to be very much, but it only shows me just how isolated I am.

Date: 2012-02-09 09:31 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] grackle
I worry about you because I know how horrible it is to feel isolated. Is there anyone you can reach out to or a place you can go to meet people? I went to the Unitarian Universalist church for a while when I was really depressed and met some awesome people there. Lots of pagans, atheists, and professors from the local college, and there were GLBT groups that met there too, and social justice groups of various kinds. Not that that would work for you (I have no idea what you enjoy socially) but it's an example.

Date: 2012-02-10 01:06 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] grackle
You shouldn't change who you are, for sure. It's definitely a waste of time.

I have the same problems getting along with people. I'm a National Merit scholar in a town with massive brain drain issues. Everyone with any sense moves to get a job that doesn't involve working at a refinery. I can't afford to, alas. That's why I'm always on the internet. In person my social deficits (I have brain damage) are much more pronounced and in general things don't go well.

I'm pretty sure you'd find people to get along with at the UU church down here. It's a shame people can't teleport.

I wouldn't hang out with me on a bet.

Maybe you could find someone else who likes to hang out with cats and listen to Apollo 11? There are stranger things.

Date: 2012-02-10 04:43 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] grackle
Yeah, that might do it. Do you ever listen to numbers stations? I have a friend who does that for fun. She finds it relaxing.

Date: 2012-02-10 05:14 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] abigail_normal
I'm not entirely sure this is going to sound the way I intend, so please keep in mind that my intention is only to help if I can.

I once felt very isolated. I think most people do at some point in their lives. It was only when I realized that the only one isolating me was myself that things changed. I wasn't happy with myself and didn't want to be around me, therefore I didn't think anyone else would want to be in my company either. There were times when I didn't even feel human, that I was looking at the world through a pane of glass, and everyone else was living real life on the other side.

I sometimes still feel that way.

I remind myself that most anger, hatred, and fear comes from ignorance. Once I decided to reach out to people instead of assuming they wouldn't like me, I started meeting people that were wonderful. There are still assholes and jerks and cruel small-minded people, but my self-worth is stronger than their ignorance. I have decided to pity them, that they spend so much time hating.

In my experience, reaching out and finding the mutual love and respect of true friendship is well worth the risk of being treated poorly.
Behold the turtle. She only makes progress when she sticks her neck out.

Date: 2012-02-10 06:42 pm (UTC)
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*endorsing the above comment, on all points

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